Introduction:
Mary L Trump is the niece of American president Donald Trump. Her book about the family is entitled ‘Too Much and Never Enough’ because there was too much verbal abuse and never enough love.
In the Trump family there are several members with the same name, so to summarise…
- Fred and Mary Trump – Donald’s late parents
- Fred and Mary’s children – Maryanne, Freddy (died 1981), Elizabeth, Donald and Robert
- Mary (author) – daughter of Freddy
Fred Trump – Donald’s father
Mary describes the family background in detail. Fred was a successful business man who made his money in real estate but was tough and unemotional towards his 5 children. Fred’s wife was hospitalised for a while when Donald was 2 and a half years old, but Fred was more interested in running his business than in being a hands on father.
The children were emotionally neglected and when their father did pay attention to them he was very critical, especially of Freddy, and Donald learned to get attention by being a bully and a liar.
Donald and Freddy:
Freddy, Donald and Robert all worked for their father. However, Freddy wasn’t happy and became a pilot instead. Freddy married and had a son and a daughter, Mary, but wasn’t successful as a pilot, got divorced and became alcoholic.
Fred Trump had little respect for Freddy and gave Donald much more responsibility in the business. Donald treated his older brother the same way his father did, with contempt. When Donald heard Freddy was seriously ill and probably wouldn’t make it, he went out to the cinema. Freddy died at the age of 42 when Mary was 16. The family refused to discuss Freddy after he died.
Her grandfather’s will:
I had sympathy for Mary having to put up with her dysfunctional family, until I reached the chapter about her grandfather’s will. Fred Trump died and left his estate to his 4 surviving children. Mary and her brother received the same amount of money as their cousins. According to Google this was $200,000 each, but Mary and her brother wanted their late father’s share. They sued the family and eventually received enough to cover medical expenses for Mary’s nephew. As a result of the lawsuit she had no contact with her relatives for 10 years.
Mary Trump:
Mary was born in 1965 and has an MA in English and a PhD in clinical psychology and teaches the subject. She has written the book in an informative and detailed way, sounding rather detached when describing the deaths of her father and her grandfather.
To write about her family in such detail and to describe her uncle as the world’s most dangerous man is a very brave and shocking thing to do and I wondered how it would affect her relationships with her relatives. However, I found it very interesting to read about Donald Trump’s childhood and early life and it explains why he behaves the way he does.
‘Too Much and Never Enough‘ by Mary L Trump was published in 2020 by Simon and Schuster and is available on Amazon.